I seriously cannot believe that I write a sex and dating blog and I have not yet written about the amazingness of sexting. Sexting is one of those things that can be a game changer. Sexting can be what gets you through the day. Sexting, in itself, can be enough, given the right set of circumstances.
Sexting is different things to different people, but I prefer to think of it as a powerful tool that can be used for accomplishing all kinds of different goals, kind of like a light saber.
For starters, before you meet someone new, sexting can be used to get to know someone better. In fact, it can be a determining factor in deciding whether you want to meet them at all! For instance, I live very close to the border of Canada. Times being what they are, it can take up to 3 hours to cross the border depending on traffic and the temperament of the border guards. In essence, I can live 45 miles away from a sexual prospect, but it might as well be 245, due to the confounding factor of the border. So recently, when I met a man on Tinder, only to find out later that he was Canadian, I decided, after several excited sexting interactions, that this would be the nature of our relationship. Yes, dear reader, this is my world, where I can eat my cake here....or take it virtually. Which in the end, saves calories.
I also use it as a wake up call. I send the people I am seeing a picture of myself every morning. This serves several purposes:
- It lets them know I am thinking about them
- It gets them to thinking about me
- It inspires them to see me again
- It makes me feel good because I get compliments first thing in the morning
- It helps me to know my body better and become more comfortable with it
Sexting, when used correctly, can inject excitement and mystery into any relationship. Sending a picture of yourself to your significant other...one that just hints at what you will do to them later...that shit is priceless. Showing them a side of you that cannot easily be seen; the secret side, the side that the two of you share...over text. It gets me wet just thinking about it.
Sexting can also be a way to explore your sexuality in a more comfortable way. I mean, how many people have written things via text that they would never say in person? It is the same with sexting. It can help you inch up to your sexual curiosities safely, from a distance. It can give you the time and space to build the courage you need to try that threesome you have always wanted to take part in. It can also communicate to someone that you are interested in them in a particular way...so if by chance they are not interested in you in the same way, you do not have to look them in the eye when they let you know that, and you can turn red with embarrassment from the safety of your couch.
I feel that in order to be responsible, I must also warn you that putting yourself out there, into the hands of others so to speak, (yes, I did) can lead to you finding your naked body somewhere on the internet, without your permission. This is just a reality of the times, so if you are not into having your nether/hither regions on the WWW, then by all means, use extreme caution. But, if you are like me, and you are good with it, then use the sext as a tool as I have.
Sexting by its nature is sexy because it is illicit. It is taking a risk, whether it is appropriate or not. Sexting can be the start of a beautiful relationship. It can also be the end of one. It is really up to you how you use it, but like any other great power, it comes with great responsibility, so use it wisely. Use it for good. Use it for fun. Use it to get to know yourself better. Get creative. Explore the virtual world via sext. It has the potential to add to your life in ways you would have never guessed.