This observation of my website and business name, passed on to me along with an accusation of being self-absorbed, came at the end of one of my most popular posts on Elephant Journal.
I was also recently told in a conversation thread blaming white women for the victimization of brown people everywhere, to "sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up."
There is so much pain in the world, it comes through in how we react to people, in how we feel about ourselves, and how we feel about each other. It is evident with each passing day that more and more people are at risk of violence, persecution, oppression, and worse. But it is no excuse to join in with the angry voices; the voices of rage, of exploitation, of fear.
This world roots for me to fail. I am given a loaded gun every single day and dared to put it to my head. But I will not, and I urge you not to. It is now that hearts are needed. I can see it in the eyes of the people I talk with. They need hope. They need something they can believe in. And every day I make that choice. I can be hope, or I can be heartache. I would rather be hope.
So yes, I believe that Fuck is an absolute in my life and in the name of my business and blog. This is because there is so much against it.
Standing up for yourself and what you believe in, in a meek way does not work. Ever. In fact, I have experienced on more than a few occassions that the only way to stand up for yourself is with confidence, with power, and with strength. Anger, no. Power, yes.
We have all been convinced that people are not valuable. We have been convinced that in order to prove that you are of any worth, that measurement must be taken in dollars and cents. If you are a woman, you are only valuable for as long as you are young and beautiful. This is not a feeling I have, this is a statistic.
This is why there is Fuck in my name. Because I mean it. I mean it for you, I mean it for me, and I mean it for every other person who has been oppressed or manipulated in this society, which includes just about everyone.
It is painful watching the oppressed go along to get along. It is torture to watch people with little education, less resources, and no money get on board a bandwagon they think will save them, even as it promises to do so at the expense of others. It is awful to watch people pick sides in an imaginary struggle that has been created only to divide.
This is why I will always reject this type of debate. I will always reject the blame game. I will reject any type of discussion that seeks to victimize an entire group of people, even if it is at the hands of another vicitimized group of people.
It is time to reject the message of self-hate and fear of others. It is time to lead with the heart, no matter what, and to trust that people are inherently worthy, and that each of us has value.
It is time to recognize that people are worth fighting for, not against, and that love is the only way through this.
Love is the only way through this.