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How to Pick Up Dudes Part Two: Preparation

8/29/2014

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In the second part of this epic three-part series, I will be discussing another vital step in picking up dudes: Preparation. Unlike mindset, it is just as simple as it sounds. 

The thing about picking up dudes is that you really never know when you are gonna need to pull your mojo out to get the deed done. Dudes are everywhere, and you could, at any moment, run across a fella that you simply must have. You must always be prepared to take action.

That is why preparation is key. When I know I am going to be out among humans, and that is almost every day, I think about the people I might see and the things that might happen, and I plan accordingly.

For instance, if I know I might be having a particularly tough day at work, I always make sure to wear something that is super cute, but just a little bit uncomfortable. That way, I know I look good, but I am also slightly distracted from the arduous nature of whatever bullshit I might be facing. 

In terms of picking up dudes, you must plan to be fierce. You must plan to be brave. You must plan, yes, here it comes, to be a badass. That can take many different forms, but for me, it means wearing boots. Boots make me feel confident, substantial, and yes, even taller. If I can swing it, and most often I can, I wear boots every day. 

The next thing I do is I put my game face on. I review my strengths, I consider all of the things that I have to be grateful for, and then I put myself in a head space where I want a date. This is a very different head space than one where I need a date.

When I want a date, I:
  • Want to have fun
  • Look for adventure
  • Have an excitement for life
  • Hold curiosity about the world and its inhabitants
When I need a date, I:
  • Appear desperate
  • Doubt myself
  • Settle for less than I deserve
  • Don't ask for what I want
My game face has a very big smile on it. My game face sits atop a frame with good posture. My game face does not make bush league mistakes because of the single-minded focus of its mission. When I walk into an establishment, I smile and say hello to the people behind the counter. When I walk or ride my bike down the street, I smile at people.* When I am out with friends at a bar or restaurant, I look people in the eye, listen, and laugh as often as possible. 

Having game is enjoying myself in any situation I am in. This is because I agree with Audrey Hepburn who once boldly stated: "Happy girls are the prettiest." I have found this to be true time and again. It is also important to note that part of preparation is understanding one vital energetic principle: I am awesome. When I go out, I am not hoping to find someone who will like me, I am hoping to find someone I will like. There is a very big difference between these two perspectives. Ruminate on them appropriately. It is very often where most people stumble when they prepare for their epic day of hitting on dudes.

The other benefit to this mindset is this: even if you do not get a date, you are still doing pretty good. You are still enjoying life. You are still happy to be you. This is a benefit that will last well into your golden years and will provide more success than you could possibly imagine. 

This preparation is not just for hitting on dudes, but for hitting on life. You go into your day with this type of attitude and your life expands, your opportunities increase, and your environment brightens. Your world is better when you prepare to take life, and men, by the balls. This, in every respect, is a purely figurative statement. Please do not think that taking a man by the balls will earn you a date. It will not. I know. I have done the leg work.

Next week I will round out this series with Execution. This is my favorite part of hitting on dudes. I have a feeling it might become your favorite as well.

*I am able to smile at people on the street because I live in a small town. If I lived in a big city, I would most likely curb this behavior entirely.


Didja like this? Was it helpful to you? Tweet it! Like it! Share it with a friend! Or, leave me a comment in the section below. Especially if you have preparation tips. I wear boots. What do you do to prepare to hit on dudes? Let us all know! I will share any information I get with all ten of my followers!!!
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